When you first got married you poured every ounce of your time and energy into caring for each other. Soup and sympathy accompanied sickness, love and support accompanied job stress. As time passed, you learned that your relationship could support added responsibilities, so you added children, pets and a house.
Your incredible children deserved the best and you worked tirelessly to provide for them. You blinked and were into your second decade of marriage. Now, your partner is just that: a partner. Someone you work with to maintain your family. Your exchanges are transactional and no longer loving.